How Do You Feel About Truscum??

Today’s Trutea asks me: What do you think about Truscum? Let me know what you think in the comment box below!

 

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jump right into
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today’s question:
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“Hi Kat, what do you think about truscums/transmedicalists? Do you think that you need to experience
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dysphoria to be trans? Also, what do you think about gender euphoria?”
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Alright, so from my understanding, okay, a truscum is somebody who is very much invested
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in this idea
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that you have to have dysphoria to be trans, right? And now mind you, side note, this is
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like one of those
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like Tumblr-isms. This is like one of those things that you see in Tumblr that maybe people
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kinda talk
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about outside of Tumblr, but truscum, these conversations, this is all very Tumblr. And
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listen: Tumblr
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can be really, really great. I think Tumblr can be a great, amazing place for people to
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come together, and
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have conversations, but it can also be very toxic. And I think this is like one of the
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great examples of the
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time where Tumblr can be very, very, very toxic, right?
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So here’s the thing: I feel like, you know, there was a time in my life where I really
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cared about what the
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trans person next to me was doing with their life. And what did I mean by that? I felt
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like if a
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transwoman was a woman, she had to do this, this, and that, and had to feel this, this,
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and that way
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about being a woman. She had to have dysphoria like me, she had to identify like me, she
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had to want to
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put make-up on, and dadadadada. She had to want to do all of these things. And that’s
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how I very much
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viewed, you know, trans people and I thought, you know, if they’re not applying to this
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certain standard,
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then, you know, they aren’t really real trans people. And when I read a lot of what
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truscum say, it very
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much, very, very, very much falls in line with that.
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Now, there are a lot of people who are truscum who are gender non-conforming, which is kind
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of like
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this strange thing that you run into because you have people who recognize that, you know,
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gender
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expression is not binary, but will still kind of have this like road block when it comes
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to the idea of
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maybe some people don’t have dysphoria, maybe they’re still trans, you know? Personally,
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this is how I
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look at this: there’s no way to standardize being trans. There’s no way to standardize
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being trans. And
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it’s not up to you or to me to tell somebody else whether or not they are or aren’t transgender.
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So to me, I really don’t like people who spend a lot of their time really engaging
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in this narrative that
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they have to be, you know, the gatekeeper, if you will, of who and who isn’t trans
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enough in order to
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enter the gates of transgender-ism, you know what I mean? I just don’t really believe
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in that. I just don’t,
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you know, at this point in my life, not saying that I haven’t at some point, because I
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certainly did. But at
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this point, I definitely don’t.
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Do I believe you have to have dysphoria to be trans? I think I really kind of touched
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this: I don’t think you
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do. But I… to me, that’s also not my narrative. See, for me, I feel like it’s important
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for me to open up
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space for other people, and as a Youtuber who is trans, though I am a boring, binary,
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you know, cis-
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normative trans girl, I feel like it’s super important to discuss people who are non-binary,
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to discuss
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people whose genders are not as binary as mine because reality is is that I benefit
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a lot from the
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structures that are created around trans-ness, and how you’re supposed to be: I’m a feminine
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woman
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who, you know, is just a feminine woman who… I’m a feminine woman who likes men. I am,
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and I
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embody what a lot of people think a trans person is supposed to be, right? So I feel
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like I need to use a
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little bit of my privilege to talk about non-binary people.
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And unfortunately, when you look into a lot of truscum blogs and things like that, a lot
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of it’s devoted to
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non-binary erasure, basically saying that these people are “trans-trending”, these
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people are, you know,
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basically just transitioning into a lot of stuff for attention and for fun, and it’s
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just kind of trivializing their
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transitions. And it’s just very much caught up in this idea of what somebody else does
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with their
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transition is gonna hurt me. And I get being there ‘cause I was there at one point, but
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as you develop
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and you grow as a trans person, you kinda get at this point where you really don’t
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care what somebody
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else is doing. You just want other people to be happy.
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And I think that the thing that a lot of us need to recognize is that while we all sit
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around and have these
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conversations with ourselves, while we all sit around and have all this in-fighting within
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our community,
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and we say “Well if you have this, you have this dysphoria”, at the end of the day,
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the people who want
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to deny us care are still looking at all of us as sick, deprived people who need help,
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okay? Sick, deprived
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people who need help or Jesus, okay?
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So while you may think that having this conversation in a way is going to, you know, impress cis
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people
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into giving you, you know, your little bit of access to care, in reality, it’s really
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not. In reality, you’re not
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going to get further because, you know, you, you know, just, you shuck and jive for cis
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people. It’s just
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not gonna happen, really. They’re still gonna, deep down inside, feel some type of
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way about you, and
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that’s just that, you know?
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I’m somebody who’s been stealth. I’ve dealt with this. I’ve dealt with all types
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of shit. I know exactly
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what it feels to be at like the most comfortable, idealistic place in trans-ness, and then to
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have it all fall
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apart because it’s unrealistic, right? For me, I’ve realized that there is more power
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in our solidarity as
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trans people. Forget, you know, LGBTQIA, blah blah blah blah blah. Like all of that’s
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very valid, but I think
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as trans people, we need to stick together. As trans people, even if we don’t understand
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each other’s
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genders, we need to stick together.
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You know, we might not agree all the time, but we need to understand that, at the end
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of the day, these
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people are gonna look at us and say that we all are messed up. Doesn’t matter how binary
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you view
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yourself; we’re all messed up. So I think that there’s a lot of power to ha… to
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be had, to come with
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everyone supporting and fighting for each other, and I think that once you get to that
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point, I think it’s a
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really healthy position to be in.
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I don’t spend a lot of time getting upset about what somebody else is doing with their
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gender because it
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has nothing to do with me. It has nothing to do with me. How someone else views and
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feels their gender
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has literally nothing to do with me. And I think, and I wish that some people who sat
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around on Tumblr
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all day and have conversations like this realize that, you know? I get how you could feel it
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would, but it’s
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not. It’s not.
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