Today’s Trutea asks me: What do you think about Truscum? Let me know what you think in the comment box below!
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“Hi Kat, what do you think about truscums/transmedicalists? Do you think that you need to experience
dysphoria to be trans? Also, what do you think about gender euphoria?”
Alright, so from my understanding, okay, a truscum is somebody who is very much invested
that you have to have dysphoria to be trans, right? And now mind you, side note, this is
like Tumblr-isms. This is like one of those things that you see in Tumblr that maybe people
about outside of Tumblr, but truscum, these conversations, this is all very Tumblr. And
can be really, really great. I think Tumblr can be a great, amazing place for people to
have conversations, but it can also be very toxic. And I think this is like one of the
great examples of the
time where Tumblr can be very, very, very toxic, right?
So here’s the thing: I feel like, you know, there was a time in my life where I really
cared about what the
trans person next to me was doing with their life. And what did I mean by that? I felt
transwoman was a woman, she had to do this, this, and that, and had to feel this, this,
about being a woman. She had to have dysphoria like me, she had to identify like me, she
put make-up on, and dadadadada. She had to want to do all of these things. And that’s
viewed, you know, trans people and I thought, you know, if they’re not applying to this
then, you know, they aren’t really real trans people. And when I read a lot of what
truscum say, it very
much, very, very, very much falls in line with that.
Now, there are a lot of people who are truscum who are gender non-conforming, which is kind
this strange thing that you run into because you have people who recognize that, you know,
expression is not binary, but will still kind of have this like road block when it comes
maybe some people don’t have dysphoria, maybe they’re still trans, you know? Personally,
look at this: there’s no way to standardize being trans. There’s no way to standardize
it’s not up to you or to me to tell somebody else whether or not they are or aren’t transgender.
So to me, I really don’t like people who spend a lot of their time really engaging
in this narrative that
they have to be, you know, the gatekeeper, if you will, of who and who isn’t trans
enter the gates of transgender-ism, you know what I mean? I just don’t really believe
in that. I just don’t,
you know, at this point in my life, not saying that I haven’t at some point, because I
certainly did. But at
this point, I definitely don’t.
Do I believe you have to have dysphoria to be trans? I think I really kind of touched
this: I don’t think you
do. But I… to me, that’s also not my narrative. See, for me, I feel like it’s important
space for other people, and as a Youtuber who is trans, though I am a boring, binary,
normative trans girl, I feel like it’s super important to discuss people who are non-binary,
people whose genders are not as binary as mine because reality is is that I benefit
structures that are created around trans-ness, and how you’re supposed to be: I’m a feminine
who, you know, is just a feminine woman who… I’m a feminine woman who likes men. I am,
embody what a lot of people think a trans person is supposed to be, right? So I feel
like I need to use a
little bit of my privilege to talk about non-binary people.
And unfortunately, when you look into a lot of truscum blogs and things like that, a lot
non-binary erasure, basically saying that these people are “trans-trending”, these
people are, you know,
basically just transitioning into a lot of stuff for attention and for fun, and it’s
just kind of trivializing their
transitions. And it’s just very much caught up in this idea of what somebody else does
transition is gonna hurt me. And I get being there ‘cause I was there at one point, but
and you grow as a trans person, you kinda get at this point where you really don’t
else is doing. You just want other people to be happy.
And I think that the thing that a lot of us need to recognize is that while we all sit
around and have these
conversations with ourselves, while we all sit around and have all this in-fighting within
and we say “Well if you have this, you have this dysphoria”, at the end of the day,
to deny us care are still looking at all of us as sick, deprived people who need help,
okay? Sick, deprived
people who need help or Jesus, okay?
So while you may think that having this conversation in a way is going to, you know, impress cis
into giving you, you know, your little bit of access to care, in reality, it’s really
not. In reality, you’re not
going to get further because, you know, you, you know, just, you shuck and jive for cis
not gonna happen, really. They’re still gonna, deep down inside, feel some type of
that’s just that, you know?
I’m somebody who’s been stealth. I’ve dealt with this. I’ve dealt with all types
of shit. I know exactly
what it feels to be at like the most comfortable, idealistic place in trans-ness, and then to
apart because it’s unrealistic, right? For me, I’ve realized that there is more power
in our solidarity as
trans people. Forget, you know, LGBTQIA, blah blah blah blah blah. Like all of that’s
very valid, but I think
as trans people, we need to stick together. As trans people, even if we don’t understand
genders, we need to stick together.
You know, we might not agree all the time, but we need to understand that, at the end
people are gonna look at us and say that we all are messed up. Doesn’t matter how binary
yourself; we’re all messed up. So I think that there’s a lot of power to ha… to
be had, to come with
everyone supporting and fighting for each other, and I think that once you get to that
point, I think it’s a
really healthy position to be in.
I don’t spend a lot of time getting upset about what somebody else is doing with their
has nothing to do with me. It has nothing to do with me. How someone else views and
has literally nothing to do with me. And I think, and I wish that some people who sat
all day and have conversations like this realize that, you know? I get how you could feel it
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